1. The person has the PROVEN ability to change
Potential is not what this is about because most people have that. Someone with the proven ability to change has already shown you from their past actions something that didn’t come naturally to them. A person like this has worked on something difficult and you watched them improve and can witness how different they are in the present with this new skill.
2. They listen
Listening sounds like something basic but it’s a fundamental need we all have. Someone who genuinely listens to you wants to know how you feel and why things affect you the way they do. A person like this is comfortable letting you talk and take up space when you need it.