Pick A Spot Or Activity You Love
Don’t feel like you have to default to “grabbing drinks” just because that’s what everyone does. If going to a dimly lit bar with awkward chairs makes your skin crawl, pick a different activity.
Suggest going to an exhibit opening or grabbing coffee at your favorite spot. Do something you would actually enjoy doing with your friends.
If your first dates involve doing something you loathe, it makes sense why you’re not enjoying them.