2. Don’t let one person be in charge.
In many marriages, at some point one person becomes the one calling the shots. And while this seems to work on one level, ultimately the relationship will become uneven. And when things are uneven, a marriage changes.
At the beginning of many marriages, the decisions are largely shared. What to do, where to eat, where to travel—these are all decisions made by a couple together. What often happens, though, is that after the kids are born, decision making tends to fall to the primary caregiver.